Being a parent is the hardest job in the world, but being a stepparent throws in a whole new set of challenges.

It can be hard to find the time to look after ourselves – but it is key to feeling positive and being physically and mentally healthy.

Hey, I had a relationship with them before you did.

I didn’t choose this – why do I have to live with this person?

Schools are often the first place to recognise changes in a child’s attitudes or behaviour.

There is no doubt that it is around the family and the home that all the greatest virtues are created, strengthened and maintained.

They know more than they let on – life’s secrets have come to them through time, experience and patience.

Looking back I gave Peter (stepdad) such a hard time, I really tested him. Now we are actually mates and we can laugh about it, but back then I was angry.

Without any positive action, stepparents do not have any legal rights with respect to parental responsibility.

You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.

Optimism is a major advantage for all step family members so hold onto it!

“You did what today? That’s amazing!”

“This is a big change for both of us. Let’s support one another and enjoy the ride!”

“The only thing I love better than the wonderful low stress first day of the school holidays, is the last day – when I know they are going back tomorrow!”

When we think of holidays, instead of relief and relaxation it can be a hard time for parents, particularly step and blended families – the holidays can be a minefield.